Finding Your Outlet

we should ensure that as we work towards our goals, along the way we acquire other little ones that are a token of fun amongst the ‘big’ things in life.

Being an A level student, I have quite a thorough understanding of how much work, essays, coursework and studying can consume your life and take priority over other things, such as having an outlet. This is something that allows you to escape from the stresses of everyday activity – and it is something just as important as these ordinary activities mentioned, because to work non-stop, with no form of pressure release, would eventually lead to dysfunction. To me, an outlet is essentially a fun or relaxing hobby, something that demands little hard thinking and activity. Its purpose is to occupy your mind with something that is fun and easy to think about – just as when you exercise you ensure you give your body a break, your mind needs a change of activity too.

In the past year, I have found it a struggle to slot in this recreational time between deadlines, events and study. I’d go weeks on end without realizing that I’d somewhat let ‘slip away’ my hobbies and interests, my creative skills and fun, as I threw all my time and energy into meeting the demands of school life. And when I did come to the realization that this had occurred, I was disheartened: I had always prided myself on being someone good at the work-life balance. Now, I was like a train on a one-way track, with a tunnel vision that meant my only destination was the ‘future’ – I was never letting myself stop at stations to appreciate what life had to offer me at that present moment.

Finding your outlet (or in my case, rediscovering it) is a must for the majority of people who are a part of this fast-paced and demanding world. It’s good to have a skill, interest or passion outside of working life, as this is a core part of who you are as a person, and your wellbeing. For me, artistic creation is my escapism; whatever my mood, it is a way of channeling my emotional energy into a physical thing beyond myself. These emotional outlets are recommended, by experts, to find for people suffering from mental health issues such as depression. For example, artistic expression is used by many therapists as a way to facilitate therapy. Thus, it is good for us all to dedicate just a snippet of our days, a detour from the tracks, to this outlet, in order to maintain a necessary and healthy balance.

It’s not always easy to find time for an outlet, whilst it’s easy to be discouraged if we feel as though we don’t have the skill to do what we enjoy. But skill is not the point: satisfaction is. Everyday life should not be a one-way journey – we should ensure that as we work towards our goals, along the way we acquire other little ones that are a token of fun amongst the ‘big’ things in life. Expression of emotion and thought is an integral part of human nature: allow it time to flourish in your own unique way!

Thank you for reading,


Doubting Yourself – How To Get Back To Where You Want To Be

the most significant thing to remember – your biggest supporter should be yourself.

It is fair to say that the past week for me has been one of my worst in a while. It’s easy for numerous little things to gather together in an overwhelming wave of sadness, and all of a sudden it feels as though you’ve been knocked down to an undesirably low point. For me, it is the climb back up that can be the hardest: when I feel so low, I’m left doubting a lot of things about myself that never usually cross my mind. It feels as though these doubts are rocks tied to my feet, preventing me from moving on from where I am. Though being in a mindset like this can be difficult to pull yourself out of sometimes, it certainly is possible, and I believe the first stage to doing so is remembering that is possible to do.

A good starting point is asking yourself: ‘where was I before here? Has anything significantly changed to prevent me from getting back there?’ – if there is nothing but your doubts in the way of reaching your desired place again, then you understand that the obstacle you’ve got to tackle is you. For me, this means reminding myself of my achievements, the good people in my life and the qualities I have that mean I can help myself to move up. That is the most significant thing to remember – your biggest supporter should be yourself.

A challenge can be recognizing when it is somebody in your life who is responsible for knocking you down. Although you may consider them a friend, etc. it is important, if you do realise there are ill-intentions on their part, to ask yourself: ‘does this person want the best for me?’ One of the biggest things I’ve learnt in life is to know when to distance myself from a toxic person – it can be hard, but often it is necessary to keep yourself happy and progressing. You should not feel bad for putting yourself first – if you’re confident and content away from the negative people, then you’ll soon attract positive and supportive people your way.

Practically, to shake away your doubts and negativity, it’s a good idea to engage in proactive activities that will aid in working towards your desired destination. If you’re artistic, indulge in some creativity for example! Most importantly, do things that make you feel good, and proud of your talents. The desire to progress and reach our full potential is an integral part of human nature: so get working, get achieving, and soon enough you’ll find you’re feeling secure in yourself once again.

I’m a lover of people and their successes, so if you have any ideas about how to proactively shake away doubts and negativity, please comment down below!

Thank you for reading,


Spending Time in the Sun

when we have the benefits of beautiful nature at our doors, we should make it one of our priorities to welcome it into our everyday life.

The feeling of sunny warmth on my skin is refreshing, the joyful reminder that at last we are entering the summer season. For me, the past few months of darkness and rain seemed to drag on endlessly as a monotonous season of gloom; and I didn’t realize how much the weather has an impact on my mood and wellbeing until, finally, the season has changed. Summer weather is healthy – the sun and fresh air, the motivation to go out and be active more, and the overall feeling of light and warmth can contribute to a happy mindset.

Although I have always been a winter worshipper, I’ve begun to realize the benefits of making the most of nice weather when I can. As someone who has struggled with mental health in the past, I’ve become acutely aware of the boost being outside in the fresh air can give me. This is because of the physiological benefits that the sun provides us with, which consequently have a positive psychological effect. Sunlight helps to regulate all of our bodily processes, such as sleep, activity and absorption of vitamins. A healthy consistency to these is vital to all of us when staying positive, which is why now, whenever the sun is shining, I make sure I’m out and about in all of it’s bright glory.

I believe that for many of us, we’re finding it increasingly difficult to ensure we get our free time outside: deadlines, essays, and other dull demands of modern life may keep us locked indoors. It’s especially unfortunate that for young people this is particularly prevalent as exam season looms. Of course, it is important to keep up with these necessary demands, whatever the weather. But I believe that when we have the benefits of beautiful nature at our doors, we should make it one of our priorities to welcome it into our everyday life. After all, breaks in the fresh air are needed to maintain peak performance when working.

For me, this means making small adjustments such as waking up earlier to enjoy a peaceful start to the day. I’ll eat my breakfast outside; read books and notes whilst enjoying the sun. I’ll make my free time outdoors based, such as enjoying lovely day trips by the sea. My personal belief is that people are biologically designed to be outside, not stuck in concrete buildings. So many health problems nowadays are associated with overindulgence in modern commodities – though of course it is undoubtedly amazing how society has progressed in a number of ways, it is important to remember what is necessary for us, as human beings, to stay healthy and happy in a natural way.

Although this is a small post about my personal preferences on how to spend time in the summer, I hope that I have inspired some people to try to be outdoors more so that they too feel the physical and mental benefits of a bit of sunshine. Having previously experienced the downtrodden feelings of staying indoors all day, I now know that sunshine is better than ‘screen-shine’. It’s a wonderful world around us – let’s appreciate it when we can!

Thanks for reading,



How to stop it from fuelling your life

Over the past few months, I have begun to realize how many of us are drained by the demands of modern day-to-day life. Whether this is schoolwork, family or a job, each of us I’m sure can name a recent time when we’ve been at breaking point due to an unhealthy strain on our mentality. I know that, rather too often, I am a stress-fuelled machine that uses worry to clunk my way through what I need to do in the day. Many people will say this a modern phenomenon (and to an extent I agree) because of the rapid pace at which life is lived nowadays: especially if you are somebody susceptible to feeling the pressure to have a perfectly refined life for social media onlookers.

When I knew that I had my foot on the accelerator too often (destination a breakdown I’m sure), I decided to devise my own mental agenda of things to do that weren’t aimed at getting the usual ‘things’ done – it was instead a way to hit the breaks of my machine, take a step back, and enjoy life in the slow lane for some time. I am aware that not everyone will find my way of relaxing beneficial – but I hope that in reading some of my ideas, I am encouraging someone in need of a well-deserved break to take time off from stress.

Firstly, breathe! This is hardly an innovational idea, but there is a reason why we are encouraged to remember to do this. When you are head-deep in work and worry, take yourself away from the source of it and physically relax. This means being comfortable and breathing in deeply to clear your body of the signs of stress, so that your mind is then more likely to follow suit. I tend to have a short break from work to do this, choosing a place of fresh air and relaxing my body until my mind is occupied with my present physical feelings.

Secondly: becoming in tune with what makes you happy. It is vital to get the work-life balance right in order to function adequately. For me, this means taking time out, whether it be for a few hours or an entire weekend, to occupy myself with something fun and care-free. I like to think of it as catering to my inner-child – which we all have deep down! This can be taking a trip to a theme park, walking your dogs or painting a picture – anything will do if it doesn’t involve the stress of intense work.

Spending time with the people that matter to you is important. In western culture, we live in a rather individualistic society that focuses on the importance of autonomy; and while it is important to focus on yourself and your goals, it is necessary to stay connected to the people around you. This way, stress is less isolating (as I know it can be for me) and you have a support network of important people who can likely spot when you are in need of a break. Independence is good: but so is human connection.

Ideally, time management is an excellent skill to hone, in order to stay relaxed and organized. Doing ten straight hours of work simply isn’t as effective as doing two; followed by a break; then resuming it for another two. Scheduling in the ‘life’ half of the balance mentioned earlier would be a good idea to break apart long hauls of work. Time management includes allocating yourself proper relax time in the evenings so as to get a good night’s sleep: think of work as a healthy cycle in which your mind and body need to sufficiently refuel in order to perform effectively the next time round.

Those are just a few general pointers that have helped guide me into a better headspace where I am happier and healthier. I am sure that in today’s current climate, we are all aware of the need for good mental health along with physical health. It was my awareness of this that encouraged me to find a new fuel, rather than stress, to drive me through everyday life and its demands.

Thankyou for reading,



Learning to live with them: learning to love them

Scars are the body’s natural way of healing and replacing lost or damaged skin. We all have them: some big, some small, some bold or some slight. Either way they are reminders to us all of something that we have experienced in our lives – meaning that they are not just part of our external identity, but they may also shape our thoughts and feelings in our day-to-day life.

I’m sure that we all have that one mark on our knees or chin from when we took that bad fall when we were children; it serves the purpose of being our first lesson in taking more care of ourselves. I feel that these faint types of memories that we have accumulated on our bodies do not make us feel as self-conscious as other things we have. I know that I have never covered up my chicken pox scars, because I know that vast majorities of people also bear the same mark. It is a childhood memory after all – a fond part of early life. Up until 2015 therefore, I was not self-conscious of my scars. But in that year I gained a rather severe looking red line running up my back, that for the next couple of years would hinder me in many more ways than I ever could have guessed it would.

I was diagnosed with scoliosis (curvature of the spine) when I was 12 years old. After what felt like a sprint of hospital appointments and tests that are now all blurred into one, I had undergone spinal fusion surgery in order to correct the shape of my spine. I had always been a straight thinking and optimistic person, but in the chaos of my operation I felt as though I lost all my concepts of how I felt about my body, and these were instead replaced with a singular feeling of sullen resentment towards the scar upon me. I could sense it constantly. It acted as a mean looking frown whenever I glared at it in the mirror. It bitterly annoyed me, despite how many times I was reassured that it was “fine, it’s so neat!” – ‘neat’ being a word that I wasn’t too sure about.

Because unlike the mild scratches, marks and spots that I had always bore, this scar acted as a reminder of a time where I was at my most vulnerable, and when I had acquired a rather brutal new perspective on my physical appearance. Ultimately, the scar was not just physical; it was psychological too. It was like a pathway from my body to my mind, a route of self-conscious anxiety that thrust to the front of my life a constant awareness of how I looked to the outside world. Was somebody staring at the red line on my back? What were they thinking? It is human nature to be aware of yourself in social situations, but when it was preventing me from relaxing amongst friends, my self-consciousness about my scar grew into a festering ball of stress that I knew I had to confront.

What I realized in a cliché light bulb moment when looking in the mirror one day, was that it was not the physical mark that I was so saddened by. It was the event that it symbolised – the one where I was vulnerable, scared and confused. And so, I resolved to confront the issue of my operation with the force at which it had hit me back in 2015. I began discussing the experience with the people who I trusted, enclosing all of the negative emotions tied to it, and the difficult memories I had previously repressed. I would write down new, hopeful ways of thinking about the event and I would repeatedly tell myself that it was not a negative thing about me. The sense of relief and peace that eventually came from sharing and exploring my experience is best likened to a gushing flow of water being released when a bolder has been removed from it’s path. Learning to live with scars that we have is a journey, an emotional and thoughtful one that many of us have to embark upon in our lives. Of course, not everyone will struggle to live with his or hers scar. But I feel that in this often scrutinizing society, it is becoming harder for many people, such as myself, to not feel self-conscious about the marks that make them unique.

As of today, I am proud to say that I love my scar. It is not a source of sadness, but one of strength. I have chosen for it to symbolise a time that I underwent a major physical change that empowered me, along with a positive mental alteration that now allows me to view in a sensitive way other people with their own unique physical characteristics. Learning to live with the experience that shaped the person who I am today has contributed to a greater sense of self-love that I can only hope we all get to have in our daily life.

Thank you for reading,